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Looking back, it’s almost as if one day I was happy and living the life I’d chosen and the next My brother and I were my mother’s permanent caregiver. Of course, there was more to it than that, it started off with, of course checking on her & my aunt daily by calls and visits.… Continue reading Who’s Caring for the Caregiver?

During my family’s journey with Alzheimer’s/Dementia, I have made it a point to be as transparent as possible. Anger & fear play a big role in your day to day experiences. After feeling so many emotions, my goal in doing this was to help other families prepare for this daunting experience. We are never prepared,… Continue reading Angry at the World

There is limited information regarding what it’s really like to be caregiver and that’s especially true of caregivers who are men. When I started this movement with “Whosgonnatakecareofme” I wanted to share my experiences and be very transparent with my journey to help other men prepare for this dreadful journey caring for a women with… Continue reading Men, Proper Wiping is Important to Avoid Infections for women with Alzheimer’s/Dementia Wipe “Front to Back”

Holiday Outings can be very pleasant but “ShiT” Happens  With Thanksgiving turkey and dressing packed in Tupperware containers, and the dishes washed and put away, I’d say we’ve just entered the holiday season –I’m old school. I refuse to believe in the Christmas Creep where our Inboxes are inundated with Christmas sales before the Halloween… Continue reading Shit Happens

Beautiful evenings bring about Dark nights with Dementia/Alzheimer’s If you’ve recently had a loved one diagnosed with dementia, then you’d better familiarize yourself with Sundowning, and fast. Don’t get it confused, I am not talking about those beautiful sunsets that we have on those warm California summer evenings or the picturesque days where you watch… Continue reading What is Sun-downing and how do I reduce it?

A guide to helping an aging parent transition from driver to passenger due to age-related issues. Dementia/Alzheimer’s It’s Friday night. I’m getting ready to dig into chicken wings smothered in nuclear hot sauce and a cold beverage. Bite one, mid-chew, with sauce already everywhere, my cell rings. It’s my aunt and my heart stops. I… Continue reading Take Momma’s Keys

Since Mom’s diagnosis of dementia, I have no free time. No Sunday golf outings with the fellas. No Friday night dominos games with my crew. No movie time. No nothing! My Mom and my aunt need me for everything. My little brother lives out of town, which means I’m on call 24/7. My heart skips… Continue reading A Son’s Love

Other than forgetfulness that persistently got worse through the years, another thing I started noticing during the early stages of dementia was the far-off, somewhat frantic look I saw occasionally when looking in Momma’s eyes. At this point she was still functioning almost normally but one look at her and I knew something was terribly wrong. I felt… Continue reading MAMA Please Don’t Go..